Equal Partnership

A marriage relationship should be a partnership. In an address given by Dr. Richard B. Miller, he talked about how unequal partnership and power in a marriage is a predictor for depression. We must all be sure that we are sharing the power in our marriages. We will obviously have different tasks in and outside of the home, but this doesn't mean we are meant to be unequal and that one is better than the other. 
One of my favorite quotes in this reading comes from from Spencer W. Kimball. He said, "Our sisters do not wish to be indulged or to be treated condescendingly; they desire to be respected and revered as our sisters and our equals. I mention all these things, my brethren, not because the doctrines or teachings of the Church regarding women are in any doubt, but because in some situations our behavior is of doubtful quality." 
I work at a saw mill/lumber yard and I am literally the only girl there. I work with a lot of guys who come from rough backgrounds, but they are some of the greatest men I have ever met. Anyway, they still treat me as their equal. They don't belittle me for being a "girl" or assume I am unable to lift heavy things. I am so appreciative of this because there is nothing I hate more than being treated like I can't or am unable to do something hard. I am treated as their equal. I would only hope that all men and even women remember that their partner is an equal in all things.
In closing, I would like to share one more quote by Marion G. Romney. He said, "Husband and wives should be one in harmony, respect, and mutual consideration. Neither should plan or follow an independent course of action. They should consult, pray, and decide together...Husbands and wives are equal partners." This is a great reminder that we must consult our partner in everything. Nothing should be done without the other knowing. Honestly, one of my biggest concerns in one day getting married is losing my individuality. I don't want to lose who I am. So, in discussing about "becoming one" and being equal with our partners, I am trying to find a way where I can still be my own person, just with having a husband to share that with.
I hope that I can take these lessons about being equal and apply them to my future marriage. To always pray with them, lead with them, teach with them, and learn with them, in love!

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